• Yesteryear, Strangers, and Adult Braces: Beach reading that left me questioning modern womanhood

    Everyone has an opinion about Caro Claire Burke’s recent debut novel Yesteryear. The novel tells the story of Natalie Heather Mills, a wildly successful tradwife influencer who wakes up one day to find she is transported to 1855. The novel alternates an account of Natalie’s rise to fame with scenes of her struggling to adapt to an all-too-real grueling farm life devoid of nannies, microwaves, and other modern comforts she pretended to be above on her carefully-curated Instagram feed.

    Yesteryear is one of the most ambitious books I’ve read in recent memory. Not only in its content, but its use of form and language. Scenes will cut away to prayers, to memories, to streams of hateful thoughts so at odds with Natalie’s external presentation. In the first pages of the novel, Natalie tells the reader she is “perfect at being alive,” and yet the groundwork for collapse into chaos is already being subtly laid. 

    There are decidedly unsubtle elements of the book, clunky in-your-face lines (“I was heading for hell – I mean, Heaven.”), and plot points that never quite click (why was teenage Natalie, dedicated to her Evangelical upbringing as she was, fixated on attending Harvard?). Yet these hangnails felt like worthy tradeoffs for an author willing to do something strange and unhinged in the sea of disaffected literary fiction. Burke’s writing reminded me heavily of Gillian Flynn’s sharp yet cryptic prose, and multilayered antiheroines.

    My enthusiastic reception of this much-maligned book has me wondering if I am the fool. I’ve seen debates as to whether Yesteryear qualifies as literature at all, or is it pop-prose that will fail to withstand the test of time? Is its appeal rooted in shock value; in liberal, atheist snobbery? And what, exactly, is the book even trying to say about our culture? 

    While online spaces search for a precise thesis statement to pin upon Yesteryear, I do not think that this is a book to be considered through this simplistic, spoon-fed lens. Yesteryear is not a warning, nor it is a conclusory statement – it is a mirror to a reality that already exists. The discomfort experienced within its pages are the same discomforts experienced in our reality. 

    Some of the most incisive moments of Yesteryear come in the form of characters Caleb and Doug – Natalie’s husband and father-in-law, respectively. Doug is a longtime good ol’ boy politician, and Caleb is, essentially, his useless failson. Natalie sees these men as means to an end: tools she can wield towards stability, towards success, towards wealth and power. For a time, she does so successfully, playing puppetmaster until her life is a pristine depiction of white, Evangelical harmony. 

    And yet. 

    Despite the castles built in her mind, Natalie is ultimately an object to be disposed of by these men. Cut off, cast aside, possibly even murdered. No, Natalie is not a martyr or a hero to be emulated – but she is, in men’s eyes, the same as all other women: an object. Her years of planning and striving are so quickly flicked away when they are no longer useful. 

    Also the subject of this summer’s gossipy book discussion is Belle Burden’s memoir Strangers. Burden’s book recounts her 20 year marriage to her husband, and its sudden, unexpected collapse. 

    Burden’s memoir differs drastically in style from Yesteryear – every time I read something about ospreys I could practically hear the editor insisting that the story needed some sort of unifying motif – but the books are far more alike than meets the eye. 

    Strangers presents a universe of glamour not unlike that depicted in Yesteryear. Burden is rich. Extremely rich. A custom, six-bedroom residence in Tribeca, plus multiple other properties rich. Country clubs and private school and helicopters rich. Though Burden does, from time to time, acknowledge her awareness of her own privilege (to varying degrees of success), the lavish depictions of wealth in Strangers are undoubtedly part of the book’s appeal. It’s both aspirational, while also saying “look at how no number of Mongolian cashmere sweaters insulates women from heartbreak.” 

    Burden and Burke both depict worlds where money is a given, and yet men remain firmly in control. Emotionally and financially in control, without consequence for their misdeeds. Burden’s story ends with her own self-discovery and empowerment, but she also feels tangibly fragile. 

    After Strangers, I began Lindy West’s new memoir Adult Braces. The book centers around a cross-country road trip of self-discovery as West reckons with her spouse’s polyamory. It’s no secret how that story turned out: since 2021, West has been in a throuple with her spouse and another woman. 

    West and Burden’s stories bear a striking resemblance in one very particular way: a sense of defensiveness for those who have wronged them. The authors work so hard to ensure that the reader does not harbor negative feelings for what are very clear antagonists. “This book is not about them, this book is about me. A me who just so happens to be reeling from the pain inflicted upon me by one very specific other individual, yet whom I cannot bring to identify as the source of that pain because, despite writing an entire book attempting to excavate that pain, I ultimately intend on granting protected status the source of that pain.” 

    I’m not being totally fair, I know. Burden has children she must continue to co-parent with her ex-husband, and West remains steadfast in her commitment to her marriage and partnership. Asking for anything but what we are given can quickly turn parasocial. (And we can’t have that!) 

    These books, and the relationships depicted therein, strike true at the experience of being a contemporary woman attempting to navigate love, self, and power. To be a woman today is to inevitably be filled with an undercurrent of rage, like Natalie in Yesteryear. To be a woman today is to find oneself shirking and small for our own safety, like Belle in Strangers. To be a woman today is to be on a neverending quest for self-love, like Lindy in Adult Braces

    Women are sold a vision of modern life where equality is a given. We supposedly have power – in all these books, the female protagonists are more successful and stable than their romantic counterparts – but these books reflect the ways in which that power is merely a hallucination. The veil of equity is merely a privilege we’ve been granted, and there is an invisible hand lurking, waiting to snatch it away at any moment.


  • My 2025 in Books

    This year, I read 52 books.

    The books overlapped and intersected with each other, but somehow tidily added up to one book a week.

    Searching for themes, it’s easy to see my grief for my cat, Torby, processed in book form. I lost her just as 2025 began, and found comfort in every cat-related piece of media I could get my hands on. The Traveling Cat Chronicles by Hiro Arikawa is easily my favorite book I read this year, and I will always be so grateful that it was there for me when I needed it.

    2025 was also the year I grew my Japanese studies beyond manga and began reading novels (for grown-ups!). キッチン by Banana Yoshimoto is one of my favorite books in English, and I loved reading it all the more in its original form. Yes, I still read plenty of manga — including the first nine volumes of ナナ as part of an online book club with fellow language-learners.

    One of the most unexpected favorites of 2025 was Kelly Bishop’s memoir, The Third Gilmore Girl. I understand why she chose to title the book as she did, but Bishop’s story — and her storytelling — transcend the label. Her raw stories of life as a dancer in 1970’s New York City have more in common with Just Kids than the fluff of Bishop’s Gilmore Girls co-star Lauren Graham’s Talking as Fast as I Can.

    Stray Observations:

    • I read Honey by Isabel Banta in a single sitting while camping earlier this year. I can’t remember the last time I did that!
    • The excitement surrounding Heated Rivalry honestly sustained me during a tough end to this year. I adore the show and the books are equally as brilliant.
    • It’s rare for me to downright hate a book. Don’t get me wrong, there are times when I love to be a hater. But when it comes to literature I try to be as open-minded and curious as possible. The books in the “not for me” category are books that I did not enjoy reading, but that I respect nevertheless. The books in the “kindling” category are genuine abominations.

    What Will I Read Next Year?

    Middlemarch. Mostly so I can stop talking about how I need to read Middlemarch.


  • “Parable of the Sower” – A Rereading

    I first read Octavia Butler’s Parable of the Sower in 2019. Originally published in 1993, Parable of the Sower gained renewed attention in the mid 10’s — reaching the NYT Bestseller list for the first time — for its prophetic depiction of a Trump-like presidency. Parable‘s President Christopher Donner, familiarly, vowed to return a crumbling United States to a long-lost golden age.  

    The book, at the time, felt foreboding. I distinctly remember the feeling of pique when narrator Lauren Olamina expresses shock at news of a measles outbreak. At the time, a measles outbreak was sweeping through New Jersey. How portentous! I thought. No, the word “portentous” didn’t actually sail its way down my stream of consciousness, but the novel nevertheless struck an excitingly sinister cord — the same feeling I used to get playing Bloody Mary with my friends. 

    Last week, I finished reading Parable of the Sower for the second time. My friends and I decided to start a book club. When someone suggested Parable of the Sower, I recalled the thrilling goosebumps of my first read, and happily agreed to pick it up again. For the month that followed, everyone in my life had to endure my exclamations of how the book was “too real.” 

    The fact that Octavia Butler predicted the “Make America Great Again” movement with surgical accuracy feels like an afterthought to the ways in which Parable depicts society as fractured, isolated, and self-serving. The poverty that disempowers, the paranoia that leaves everyone fending for themselves. Reading the book in 2019 felt like a glimpse at a possible future — reading in 2025 felt like holding a mirror. 

    In the afterword to the novel, writer Nnedi Okorafor talks about her own experiences with reading and re-reading Parable at various stages of her life. She charts her own trajectory from idealistic student activist to adult pragmatist through her interpretations of Parable at ten year intervals. Okorafor expresses gratitude to Butler for the lessons these readings have continued to afford her, letting her peel back new wisdom with each subsequent reading. 

    I wonder what lessons are left to learn now? I am being somewhat hyperbolic and morose for effect — but only ever-so-slightly. I am starting to think that what this book has to teach us is less a matter of opening our eyes and more a means of survival. Survival, at times, feels like all there is left.


  • Stuck in a the Beautiful Trap of Normalcy

    Until this summer, I had never lived in an apartment with its own washer and dryer.

    Prior to July, washing my clothes (and, with disturbing infrequency, bed sheets) meant layers of strategic planning. Sometimes it meant hauling a wire cart, stuffed with sacks of musty bras, three blocks down Myrtle Avenue, to the nearest laundromat. Other times it meant descending into a basement whose rat population was kept at bay by a friendly three-legged cat.

    As of this summer, I can separate my white socks from my black sweaters with no regard for the number of quarters in my possession. I don’t have to pretend my dishtowels don’t vaguely smell of mildew at all times; I can simply toss them in the hamper, where they will await a timely cleaning, and then pull out a fresh one from a kitchen drawer.

    Having laundry to do, mums to water, and dishwasher filters to clean is glorious — luxurious even. It’s also so normal in a way that’s hypnotizing.

    I see how folding fresh clothes and preparing a week’s worth of lunches into neatly-stacked Pyrex containers can be the stuff of a life, with Love is Blind episodes to fill the space in between. The days feel full enough to send you to bed tired. Add in a regular gym regimen and maybe one social interaction per week and your calendar is booked and busy as can be.

    There is no rhythm to my writing lately. Creativity comes in fits and starts. I have a box of pastels next to the couch, poised. My writing notebook is tucked under the laptop I use for work. Everything is ready for me, but suddenly there is far too much laundry to do.

    There are many people who would rather have their lives be comfortable than interesting, and both qualities cannot always coexist. I once heard someone say that, in order to be a powerful, creative woman, you also have to let your house be a little messy. Dust needs to gather in the corners of your house, or else it will gather in the corners of your soul.


  • Summer Camp for Anxious Adults

    Last month, I attended the Bread Loaf Translators’ Conference. In the days before, I was so nervous. “What if the other kids don’t like me?” I wondered.

    Those fears didn’t matter, in the end. A different version of myself came back down from that mountain.

    Surrounding myself with others who believe that reading and writing are the most beautiful stars in life’s constellation was indescribably affirming.

    Singing Alanis Morrissette at karaoke night was almost as affirming.

    What is the opposite of gatekeeping? Knowledge sharing? Whatever it is, it’s so refreshing; so needed. I understand the desire for mystique, but I think generosity builds legends in just the same way. 

    I bought my husband a Bread Loaf t-shirt. He wore it out to dinner the day after I got back. A woman leaving the restaurant looked at him and said “Bread Loaf! Wow!” She met my gaze as if to say “what an impressive fellow you have caught in your web.” Indeed.

    The real lesson from this experience is that I should have been reading so much more Benjamin this whole time.

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